Couples tend to break up for the same reasons they got together. That when they get together, he says for example: she is so affectionate, so into me, she is so attentive to everything I do. And when they break up he says: she would not give me a moment to myself, she was so demanding, she was always watching me. Or she says: he is so driven, so inspiring. And when they break up she says: he is always at work, never has time for me, he is obsessed with success. Yes, these are stereotypical examples, but I do think that many couples break up not because the partner changed as they say, but because their partner stayed the same. They see the other side of the same coin, the same traits and don’t like them anymore. Instead, those who go on caring about each other see both sides of the coin and love what they have.
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