I used to think Israel was different from its neighbors, but lately less and less so. My religion is better than yours is no formula for peace in the region. As a secular Jew I would feel so uncomfortable if I lived in Israel with a government who makes comments like this.
It is also understandable how Europe, which is mostly secular, feels alienated from Israel now and USA which is mostly religious, identifies with the country. Israelis like to say that Europe is just anti semitic but while some of that is true, especially Spain (google “es dificil ser judío en España”) what is also true is that in Europe no politician speaks about God in general and least of all as if God liked Jews and not Muslims. Personally I think there is a very low probability that God exists but even if it did there is a proportionate lower probability that it belonged to any religion. I think that God in itself is an extremely unlikely entity but it did exist what would be the link between God and one particular religion? To me God inside a religion is a flag that some carry to do good but most carry as a symbol of their own tribe against others. In many cases God inside a religion is used to justify murder and that makes religion alien to me.
Long are the days of Israel being led by agnostics or atheists like Golda Meir who when asked if she believed in God she said. I believe in the Jewish people and the Jewish people believe in God. Now Israel is being led by people who think God is on their side. Pretty dangerous.
Little kids want to believe. Teenagers don’t want to believe. We are Jewish but we are not religious. I am glad we aren’t, especially for the upbringing of my 5 children.
If we had been religious Jews I could not have dressed as Santa and brought gifts to my kids at a young age. I would have missed their faces of delight, and their smiles when they knew it was me, but pretended not to know. I can understand Jews refusal to celebrate Christmas because of Jesus who said he was God and we did not believe him. I can side with anyone who refuses to believe that a certain person is God. The whole story of Jesus is very alien to Jews and to many Europeans who have abandoned religion in the last decades, especially in Spain and Italy. But most religious Jews fail to realize that in many countries Jesus has lost its prominence to Santa a much simpler and easier to like character. Yes I know Santa is also about consumerism and I do feel sorry for the parents who can’t buy toys for their kids (my kids know this and we donate toys for them). And the world sucks in many ways. But you have to agree with me that there is something beautifully simple for young kids about a man who comes from the North Pole with lots of gifts. Especially if they have been good kids ;).
And later on, with my older kids, not being religious spared me of trying to convince them of the literal interpretation of the Bible. A struggle that many still go through, especially in USA the only developed country in which most people are still religious. This would have been painful for me, as the Bible has so many absurdities in it that I would have been unable to defend it as true. I am so glad I did not have to tell my kids that we believe in all the absurdities of the Bible “because we have faith”. Starting with the universe being but a few thousand years old most of what I read in the Bible is of no scientific value and what is even worse, frequently of dubious ethical value.
During the Jewish holidays I have manage to explain to my kids that we celebrate because we are part of the Jewish people who share a common heritage as a people not only as a religion. We celebrate as many of my non religious Christian friends celebrate, as a tradition not as a literal belief. I also explain that most of the founders of the State of Israel were not religious and that most of the achievements of the Jewish people are way outside the realm of religion, mostly in literature, entrepreneurship and science. I frequently like to tell the story of Golda Meir, one of the founders of Israel who was an atheist and when asked if she believed in God she answered wisely “I believe in the Jewish people and the Jewish people believe in God”. In our home there are only two kinds of answers to any question a child may pose: the most likely to be true answer and as frequently, the I don’t know answer. I don’t know feels better than religion to me.
So today, right here in St Barts in our sailboat, I will dress as Santa again, this time for our baby and 5 year old. I can’t wait to see how happy they will be. And yes, they are also getting their Chanukah gifts. We celebrate all that there is to celebrate. And we are happy this way.
Nationalism and religion have a lot in common. Yet nationalists and religious people will quickly deny this. But both nationalism and religion are about tribal rituals, members and not members, ours vs theirs, inclusion vs exclusion. A gene pool vs a non gene pool. I know this. I am Jewish but I am not religious, still I am a “member of the tribe”.
Religion and God most likely have nothing in common. This is because most likely God does not exist and should something like God exist it is extremely unlikely that somehow this God would belong to a single religion and not other. Religion, which is a form of nationalism, which is a form of tribalism.
Here’s an article that I wrote about what happens when a country gives up religion as Spain mostly did.
I just saw this in Reddit as one of the most voted pieces of the day in the United States. Even though USA is a mostly a Christian nation I can see why this was so voted. I think that believers and non believers can agree that if we had never heard of the Bible and were introduced to Judaism or Christianity for the first time, the story of Jesus would be pretty hard to accept.
Most people in Europe are agnostic, most people in America are religious. Religious people argue that a family who prays together stays together. But evidence points otherwise. As the article shows, it turns out divorce rates in the USA are higher among families who pray together than among those who do not.
In October of last year, I wrote this post What Happens when a Country gives up Religion…. where I comment that Spain gave up religion and actually did very well after doing so. Spain went from being a very poor Catholic country to being a wealthy country (approaching GDP per capita of Germany) that mostly treats Catholicism as a tradition and frequently legislates against its teachings (the latest case has been the approval of Gay Marriage). Then I go on to say that in spite of so many things in Spain being legal that are illegal in most of the States (or say that all of Spain has the legislation of Las Vegas and more), the country is overall quite moral and ethical and much less police, prisons and arms are needed per inhabitant than in USA. My point here is that violence against things some may not like does not always seem to be the best approach. Tolerance is best. This article was plicked up by Reddit two days ago and the most hilarious string of comments followed. Some spilled over into my blog. Needless to say visits to my blog went through the roof and around 20K people read the article. What follows is some of these comments.